Lately, have you been wondering if your husband is attracted to you? The honeymoon phase has worn off and you’re not so sure his eyes sparkle anymore when he looks at you. Is the attraction still there? Do you give him the butterflies or have they vanished into thin air?
In any long-term relationship there comes a time when it’s normal for couples to start to question their partners’ attraction toward them. Life got busy, children and other priorities got in the way of love and maybe your husband stopped saying he loves you as frequently as he used to. While it’s perfectly normal to occasionally ponder over your husband’s feelings for you, you can’t let that thought linger since it’s unhealthy for your marriage.
Rather let’s look into the telltale signs your husband still feels attracted to you. If there are no signs that he does, what are the subtle signs he just isn’t attracted to you anymore? Read on and I’ll shed light on all of your questions.
If you have a reason to question his attraction to you – it might be this is a symptom of something else. Take a moment to complete the marriage assessment quiz and maybe we’ll uncover the real root of the problem.
How Do I Know If My Husband Is Attracted to Me?
If your spouse is attracted to you they’ll show that in more ways than one. Let’s look at the most noticeable signs, shall we?
He Makes Time for You
Doesn’t matter how jampacked his schedule is, if your husband is still into you he’ll make time for you. He might plan a weekend getaway together or do something as simple as taking you out on a date so that he can spend some quality time just with you.
If he’s giving you his undivided attention while you’re together and you can tell he’s genuinely interested in what’s on your mind, he is madly in love with you. You might also see him keeping his electronics away so that he can actively listen to you.
He Shows Signs of Affection
Men show affection in various ways when they’re into someone. If you’re wondering whether your husband is still attracted to you or not because you don’t have sex as often as before, remember that intimacy is much more than just having sex. Does he kiss you goodbye before leaving for work?
Does he hug you from behind when you’re cooking? Even if he’s too tired to have sex after a long day, does he kiss you goodnight and snuggle you to sleep? He wouldn’t do these little things if he wasn’t into you. If he still holds your hands and kisses you out of nowhere, that’s him showing his attraction right there.
He Compliments and Appreciates You
A lot of women complain that they feel like their husbands take them for granted and never really appreciate how much they’re investing in the marriage every day. If your husband isn’t one of them and appreciates you regularly, it’s because he is attracted to you.
He’d like you to accompany him to office parties and show you off because he finds himself lucky to have someone so beautiful as his wife. He’d introduce you to his colleagues and you’ll see him looking at you in a room filled with beautiful women.
He Surprises and Spoils You
Your husband will make sweet gestures to surprise you if he still feels the attraction toward you. It might not always be a huge one. If he wakes up early to make you breakfast in bed or cooks dinner before you get home from work, take the hints.
Men tend to spoil their women when they’re attracted to them. It can look anything like getting you chocolates on your period or buying you something you had your eye on. If he remembers the relationship milestones and gets you thoughtful gifts to brighten up your day, he sure finds you attractive.
He Takes Interest in Your Hobbies
A husband who lost interest in his wife won’t bother to keep up with her likes and interests. If your husband finds you attractive he’d take interest in your hobbies and will try to tag along whenever he can.
Research shows that when someone is attracted to their partner they try to nurture whatever shared interest they have and that helps their similarities grow stronger. So, if you constantly find your husband trying to know more about your new hobby, that’s definitely a sign that he’s into you.
He Initiates Sex and Thinks About Your Satisfaction
How is your sex life? Are you two becoming more like roommates by the day? Every couple goes through phases where they find their sex life dwindling. It can happen if you two are preoccupied with work and parenting. But, he’ll make time for sex anyway if he’s attracted to you.
If your husband initiates sex whenever he gets the chance and makes your pleasure a priority, it’s one of the signs he’s totally into you. However occupied they might be, men always have time for a quickie as long as they find their partners attractive.
He Makes Conscious Effort to Fix Things
If your husband is still attracted to you he’d take your emotions into consideration and will try his best not to hurt your feelings. If he mistakenly does so, he’ll go out of his way to show you how sorry he is. He’ll take responsibility for his actions and won’t try to pin the blame on you.
When he’s still in love with you he won’t let small arguments spiral into a big fight. You’d feel like a team and he’ll work on the issues that create a rift in your marriage. If you see him trying to fix things and making romantic gestures to make up for his mistakes, the attraction hasn’t faded away.
You’re Still His Go-to Person
Does your husband still confide in you? Are you still his go-to person when something goes wrong? Does he ask your opinion before making any major decision? If yes, then he’s still attracted to you and does all of these things because he feels safe around you and values your judgment.
Men love nothing more than feeling respected in a marriage. If your husband shares everything good or bad with you without the fear of feeling judged, that means he’s getting that respect from you and is trying to reciprocate. It’s a sign he’s very much into you.
He Notices You and Flirts With You
If you catch him staring at you quite regularly, this is one of the most obvious and adorable signs that your husband is attracted to you. Subtle changes in your appearance won’t get ignored. If you try to look nice for him, he’d notice and flirt with you.
He’d send you sexy texts when he’s away. If he’s not that vocal about his feelings, he’d at least let you know that he’s thinking about you. Now that’s a surefire sign that he’s still attracted to you. He’d give you the eye and will make you feel wanted.
He’d also get a little jealous when other guys look at you in public or when you can’t stop talking about your handsome coworker. A little jealousy is a sign that he hasn’t lost interest in you and wants to make sure you haven’t as well.
He’s Supportive of You
When your husband feels genuine attraction toward you, he’d keep trying to support your goals and ambitions. Whatever you do in life, he’d be cheering you on. A good marriage is based on more than just physical attraction.
Emotional intimacy is a prerequisite for physical intimacy and that happens when we feel seen and understood by our partners. Maybe he let you go on your work trips no questions asked. You may have taken that as a sign that he doesn’t care while he was just trying to be supportive.
It’s not possible to premeditate these signs all the time. So keep your eyes and ears open and you’ll know how the love of your life feels about you.
How Do You Tell If Your Husband Isn’t Attracted to You Anymore?
What if your husband hasn’t shown most or any of the signs of attraction to you for a long time and you feel like he isn’t into you at all? Keep an eye out for these most obvious signs your husband doesn’t find you attractive anymore.
- He doesn’t want to have sex with you.
- He always finds an excuse to stay away from home.
- He constantly picks fights with you over silly things.
- He finds faults with everything you do.
- He flirts with other women and stares at them.
- He doesn’t touch you or show any signs of affection.
- He doesn’t talk to you about anything.
- He treats you as if you’re invisible.
However, remember that your husband might be dealing with work stress, health conditions, or if the worst comes to the worst he’s cheating on you. Whatever the underlying reasons are, you need to tread carefully here.
You don’t want to come off as an insensitive and neurotic wife if he’s been distant due to personal struggles that have nothing to do with you. Even if you find out that he’s cheating on you, that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.
A lot of couples come back from infidelity and continues to be happily married. So, have faith that you can win his heart over once you find the root causes and deal with them.
Why Does My Husband Not Seem Interested in Me Sexually?
When a husband doesn’t want his wife sexually in most cases it’s because he doesn’t find her attractive. But, that might not be the reason why your husband doesn’t seem interested in you sexually. Let’s see what else can possibly stop your husband from being intimate with you.
- He’s under a lot of stress and that’s affecting his sex drive.
- He’s dealing with issues like erectile dysfunction and embarrassed to share that with you.
- He’s addicted to porn and having sex with you doesn’t do it for him anymore.
- He’s getting his rocks off somewhere else. Ouch!
- Other priorities have become more important.
Does that mean you’ll have to feel stuck in a sexless marriage? Not at all. I’ve got you covered. I’ve gone into more detail on what to do when your husband doesn’t want you sexually.
Just a little reminder: make sure to take the signs in the context of your marriage.