Your husband is cheating on you, and he doesn’t seem to care. You still think that your marriage is worth saving, but he can’t be budged. You may think that there is no recourse for you, but there are things you can do and say that will convince your husband to change. Today, we tell you how to stop a cheating husband in his tracks.
In order to stop your cheating husband, you must make huge changes in your marriage. These changes should be directed both at yourself and your husband. You must convince him to not only stop cheating, but also to value you once again as his wife, partner, and friend.
Let’s start by looking at things that you should do about yourself. If you haven’t already, make sure you’ve taken the marriage assessment quiz so we can focus on the true root of the problem and get you both back on track quickly.
Things You Can do on Your Own
One of the biggest mistakes that I see wives make on a regular basis is being angry at their husbands. Of course, this is a natural reaction. However, the only reason to display anger is if you want your marriage to end. If you are in the process of filing for divorce, letting out your emotions is fine as it will not have any major consequences.
However, if you want your husband to end his relationship with the other woman and focus on his marriage again, being angry at him will only make things worse. In order to stop your cheating husband in his tracks, you must make him enjoy his marriage once again and give him a reason to stay with you.
Determine the Nature of His Relationship
If your husband is just looking for sex, then it may be easier for you to deal with him. However, he may be having multiple affairs in this case. People who are unable to keep it in their pants tend to seize every opportunity that presents itself.
If your husband is in a serious relationship or having an emotional affair, then your task is a bit more difficult. I have previously discussed the signs of your husband being in love with the other woman. I said it then and I will paraphrase it now: Even if your husband loves another woman, it doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you. It is still possible to make him realize that staying with you is what’s best for him.
Give Him What He Wants
Once you understand what it is that he is looking for in his affair, provide him with that.
If he is simply looking for sex, then your own sex life is not good enough to satisfy his needs. Trying to spice up your sex life may help him realize that he doesn’t need anyone else. Also, remember to put extra effort into your appearance if this is the case. Sex is, after all, based on superficial urges. Even if he truly loves you, he still needs to find you attractive enough in order to make love.
On the other hand, if he is looking for companionship, support, and love in his affair, then you need to show him that he can find these things in you. Emotional affairs in particular can be hard to let go of. Usually, they occur when couples let their lives get in the way of their marriage. If you haven’t been prioritizing your husband lately, make sure that you start giving him the attention and affection that he requires.
Be a Better Wife
One easy trick to make sure that your husband stays with you is to become indispensable. You need to do things that would make your husband’s life really difficult in the case of a divorce. Here are a few examples:
- Be the best mother possible. Your husband will see that the children need you, and try to preserve his marriage.
- Keep the family organized. If you are the one managing everyone’s schedule, your husband will begin to realize how much he relies on you.
- Keep the house organized. Even if you are working full-time, making sure the house is neat and tidy will show your husband just how hard you work for his quality of life.
Things You Can do About Your Husband
Now, let’s take a look at a few things that you can do directly to stop your husband in his tracks. You will need to be confrontational here, so prepare yourself for that eventuality.
Remember that before you do these things, you should be doing everything that has been mentioned so far. You must give him no excuses so that he is forced to end any affairs that he has.
Don’t Accept His Behavior
Once you have established just how difficult it will be for your cheating husband to live without you, put your foot down.
Let him know that his infidelity will not be tolerated. He must change his ways or you will leave him.
If your husband has even a semblance of feeling left for you, he will promise to stop. However, this may not mean that he will stop cheating. You must still keep close tabs on him and try to stop him whenever you think he may be cheating.
Confront the Other Woman
Couples often have trouble communicating about such sensitive issues. If your husband is unwilling to end his relationship with the other woman, you may want to avoid another huge fight. In this case, you should consider confronting the other woman.
It is possible that his girlfriend doesn’t even know of your marriage. She may think that he is single. In this case, it is more than likely that she will end things as soon as she learns the truth about him.
However, if she knows about you, then your approach should be different. It is best to appeal to her human side first. Tell her how much your marriage means to you and how much you love him. It is possible that your husband is just a means for physical pleasure for her, and she lets him go because of what you said.
If nothing else works, then threatening her is your last option. Tell her that you will not give up, and you will fight for your husband till the very end.
Talk to Him
By talking to him, I don’t mean talking to your husband about his relationship. Instead, forget that he is your cheating husband. Simply talk to him as a husband and wife should.
What I mean by this is that the two of you should be discussing your future, your kids, your finances, and your lives. There must not only be an emotional connection, but also a practical one.
The purpose of this is to remind your cheating husband of your union. You must make him understand that the two of you are supposed to spend your lives together.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t talk about your feelings. When the time is right, tell him how his infidelity makes you feel. How his affair ends up impacting your happiness. Try to get him to feel empathy for you, as that is the easiest way to stop your husband in his tracks if he still loves you.
Spend as Much Time Together as Possible
Figure out ways for the two of you to be together. Make your cheating husband realize that he can still enjoy your company and that he doesn’t need to be with someone else to be happy.
Finding hobbies and new common interests is always a good idea. However, spending a couple of hours a week is not the end goal here. The end goal is to make changes to your schedule and to your lives that significantly affect your marriage.
For example, if your husband does not sleep in the same bed as you, stop him. Cheating husbands in general avoid sharing a bed with their wives as they do not feel like having sex with them. Convincing him to sleep with you would not only allow you more time to talk but may also restart your sex life.
Similarly, traveling to and from work is another way to spend more time with each other. What’s more, it will not allow your husband to immediately visit his mistress after he is done at the office.
Admit Your Mistakes
If your husband is cheating on you, then he obviously isn’t satisfied with his marriage. Asking him for advice on how to be there for him, admitting your mistakes, and apologizing can go a long way.
Your cheating husband is almost certainly feeling some form of guilt. Even if he loves the other woman, he knows that he has broken his marriage vows. It is even possible that he wants to stop cheating on you, but cannot bring himself to do so.
Seeing you so willing to put in the effort to save the marriage and to be there for him maybe what pushes him over the edge. It could convince him that you are the right woman for him.
At the very least, it will add to his guilt. Even if he doesn’t end his relationship, he may be less inclined to see her. Even if all this achieves is to get him to spend more time with you, you now have an opportunity to do everything else that I have mentioned. Seize this opportunity and make sure you don’t let him go.