In a perfect marriage, trust would be taken for granted. Sadly, no marriage is perfect. Whether you are curious about your husband using dating sites or he cheated once and you are wondering if he is cheating again, you may want to look at his computer and phone. Here, I will tell you how to find out what your husband has been looking at online.
There are many ways to see what your spouse has been looking at online. You can either try to physically access his computer or cell phone, or you can use a spy app to remotely access his devices. Before you do this, you should consider whether snooping around and looking at his messages his worth it. More importantly, you should know exactly where to look once you manage to get in.
Let’s begin by why you may want to spy on your husband in the first place.
Should You Need to Spy on His Phone in the First Place?
Unless your husband has engaged in some suspicious activity, you should not feel the need to spy on his cell phone. Only when you notice that something is amiss should you try to track the activities on his phone.
Being married means that your private life is now OUR private life. If you think your husband might be hiding something, you should try to get to the bottom of it. Here are some common reasons why you should try to look at his phone.
- You think your husband may be in a relationship with someone else.
- You are worried that your husband is using dating apps such as Tinder.
- He has numerous public conversations with a woman on social media and you want to get to the bottom of it.
- You think he is watching porn to the point of addiction and want to confirm your suspicions.
- You are sure he is cheating and want to track his activities to collect evidence.
If you are absolutely sure that you need to look at what your husband is doing online, then here is how you can check and track his messages, social media, and everything else.
If you have a reason to be worried about your husband’s online activities, there’s probably something deeper at play. Your worry and his (potential) actions online are likely a symptom of a deeper problem and not the problem itself. Take a moment to complete our marriage assessment quiz and we’ll start narrowing it down.
How Can I See What My Husband is Looking at on the Internet on His Phone?
This part of the guide deals with what you should do once you are able to access your husband’s phone. We will take a look at each of the aforementioned instances and how you can confirm your suspicions in that instance.
I have previously covered what it means if your husband won’t let you see his phone and what you can do to access it. You can use it to grab a hold of his cell phone, and then read on!
Of course, you can also try to remotely access and track his cell phone through the use of a phone spy app. Once you’re in, here’s what you need to be watching out for in each case:
Catch Your Husband Cheating
If you think your husband is cheating on you, then you need to take a look at his messages. Text messages are rarely used by people nowadays, but you should glance at them nonetheless.
What’s more important are his instant messaging apps. Most people use WhatsApp Messenger or iMessage. However, keep an eye out for any app that seems like it might be used to contact someone.
If your husband is in a relationship, it is possible that he is hiding his apps. Try to do a thorough search of his phone so that you can collect any evidence that you need to accuse him. Of course, it is also possible that your suspicions were unfounded and you manage to confirm it.
Apart from messages, try to look for an app that may be used to hide photos, videos, and other media files. It is possible that your husband is in a serious relationship and has photos/videos of his lover on there. Sadly, you won’t be able to access the locked files without a password. However, it will prove that he has something to hide at least.
See if he is Using Dating Apps
It is possible that your husband is not having an affair. Rather, he is using dating apps to either have one-night stands or try to have one-night stands.
Of course, you should look for common dating apps such as Tinder. However, just like you should look at alternatives for instant messaging apps, you should also look for other dating apps here.
It is entirely possible that your husband knows you may be watching his phone. As such, he may not have downloaded the app. Instead, he may be accessing the website through his browser. Take a look at your husband’s browsing history and see if it has any indications.
Sadly, deleting your history is quite easy, and he may have done just that.
Get to the Bottom of His Social Media Activities
If your husband has been constantly talking to someone on social media and you want to see what it means, then that is quite simple.
As long as you are able to access the particular app on his phone, you can take a look at all of his activities. Facebook, for example, has a built-in activity log that allows you to monitor your entire activity.
Of course, you should also be taking a look at his messages. Most social media platforms offer users a way to directly and privately communicate with each other. You should also take a look at your husband’s instant/text messaging apps as he may have convinced the other woman to give him her number.
It is possible that your husband is not having an affair with that woman. He could just be flirting with her. I have previously covered what you should do if your husband is flirting with someone else. Going through that guide could be of help!
Check if he Has a Porn Addiction
Porn addiction can be extremely detrimental to a marriage. Not only can it affect your sex life, but it can cause your husband to pursue other vices (e.g. prostitution).
If your husband has a porn addiction, his browsing history could provide you with proof. Of course, it is possible that he deletes his history regularly. Some ISPs do keep a copy of your browsing history with them and can provide you with it. Contact your ISP to see if you can take a look at which websites your husband has been visiting.
Serial porn addicts often like to keep their favorite videos with them. As such, look for video files on his phone.
Checking who he follows on social media could also indicate if he has an addiction. Twitter is the only major platform that allows uncensored content. As such, that is where the vast majority of pornstars market themselves. If you notice a lot of adult actresses in his Twitter feed, then he could have a porn addiction.
Also, keep an eye out for apps like ‘OnlyFans’ on his phone. If he is using any of them, then he is not only addicted to porn but he is also wasting money.
If you simply want to track your husband’s activities to gather proof that he is cheating, I would recommend a phone spy app. This would allow you to not only confirm your suspicions, but also record proof of his infidelity.
Whether you want to use this proof to pursue a favorable divorce settlement or make him stop, a phone spy app will be the easiest way to do it. Chances are that if things have devolved to the point of divorce, your husband will never let you access his phone anyway.
What About His Computer?
Ten years ago, your husband’s computer would have been the main way that you would be able to catch him cheating, looking at porn, or using a dating site.
However, phones have pretty much taken over computers when it comes to conventional use. As such, your husband will probably not have a lot of incriminating material on his computer.
That said, it is probably worth taking a look at it. This is especially true if you think your husband is addicted to pornography. It could be that he prefers to watch on a bigger screen, or he keeps a collection on his harddrive.
The vast majority of digital content consumption that people do nowadays occurs on cell phones. As such, your main priority should be to access his cell phone.
Accessing His Accounts Through His Computer
There is one way through which his computer could be helpful. If your husband does not use it for his shenanigans, it is possible that he has not protected it with passwords (or he has told you his passwords).
He may have used the web browser to log in to some of his accounts and leave them logged on. It is possible for you to access a large amount of data that would otherwise require a lot of effort.
For example, you could try all of his social accounts such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Similarly, WhatsApp and other IM clients also have web versions that you could try out.
Lastly, it is possible that he logged on to a dating site at one point or the other and forgot to log off. As such, it is best to try all major dating websites such as Tinder and Ashley Maddison.
Sadly, if your husband knows a thing or two about computers, he will be able to anticipate all of this. Thankfully, I have explored multiple avenues on how to access your husband’s tech throughout the website. Even if you cannot access his devices, it is possible to confirm your suspicions in other ways. For example, simply the way he behaves when it comes to his phone can tell you whether he is hiding something.