Sadly, despite its advantages, technology has also complicated our lives. While dating sites are a great way to meet the perfect someone (or have an enjoyable fling), they can also be used irresponsibly. Being able to anonymously date online gives people unlimited freedom. If someone is married and they want to cheat, it is easier than ever to do so now. Think your husband is doing it? We will show you how to find your husband on dating sites!
Finding your husband on a dating site may be quite difficult. Many people that are using online methods to cheat do not include their real names and information on their profiles. Thankfully, there are other ways to look up your husband’s dating profile. While they require a little more effort, finding conclusive proof of whether or not your husband is using a dating website will help put your mind at ease.
Let’s jump right in and look at how you can spot your husband’s dating profile. In the end, we will talk about what to do if you do find that he is on an online dating website.
If you have reason to suspect he’s on a dating site then there’s likely a deeper issue at play here. Take the marriage assessment quiz and we can work on getting you both back on track quickly.
How Can I Find Someone’s Online Dating Profile?
Of course, many dating websites have a search feature that allows you to search for a specific person. However, your husband may not be using his real name on his dating profile. After all, it is in his best interests that you do not find out about his online affairs.
We will start by taking a look at Tinder since that is one of the most common dating apps. After that, we will take a look at general methods of finding your husband’s online dating profile regardless of the website.
How Can I See if my Husband is on Tinder?
Tinder does not allow you to randomly search for people on their app. In the rare case that you met your husband on Tinder, you will still be able to see his profile. Simply search for him and see if he has updated his profile picture or any information. If he has, then he is still using Tinder.
You can also create a fake profile that has all the qualities and the photos that your spouse would be attracted to. Simply create an account on your phone and start looking in your area. Since there are only a limited number of users utilizing the website in a specific area, there is a good chance that you will eventually see his profile.
Of course, this method is not very effective and is quite time-consuming. If you really do believe that your husband is hiding something from you, then there are more efficient ways to confirm your suspicions.
Methods of Finding Online Dating Profiles
Dating sites work a lot like social media accounts. The only difference is the built-in anonymity that makes it difficult for you to outright search for your husband. Here are a few ways to check if he is using an app that you are not aware of.
Spy on His Phone
There are ‘phone spy apps‘ that you can use to check if your husband is using dating sites. Of course, you need to be careful and check your local laws to make sure that you are not breaking any of them. Also, try to do everything that you can to not get caught. If it turns out that he is not using any dating website and he catches you spying on him, the loss of trust may end up considerably harming your marriage.
Installing the apps may be difficult as you could need access to your husband’s phone. If he refuses to give you access, then the chances that he is hiding something from you are even greater.
Check His Browser History
If you manage to get access to his phone and/or his computer, take a look at his browser history. Unless he has been really careful and deleted it, you will be able to find his dating profiles.
Going through his history may take a long time. As such, you should try to search for all of the common dating sites that are used in your country. If you find a lot of links to a particular dating site, then he is probably using it.
However, if you only find a couple of links to a particular site, then it is possible that he opened it accidentally or a friend sent that website to him as a joke.
Another way to check if he is using a dating site is by going on all the major sites using his computer. He would probably still be logged in on the websites that he uses (unless he is careful). This way, if you open a website and see his account, you will know for sure that he is using a dating site.
Check His Email Address
If you are able to gain access to his phone/computer or find a legitimate excuse for looking at his e-mails (e.g. wanting to download the bank statement of your joint account), you can try to find his online dating profile on it.
Once again, sorting through thousands of emails will be different. You can try searching for emails from specific websites (e.g. Tinder) to see if he is using any of them.
Certain email clients also automatically sort your emails based on the type of content they contain. For example, if he has an email address on Gmail, then Google will automatically sort all emails related to social media in a single tab. It may be possible for you to find his dating profile by going through this tab.
Lastly, you can also go to the ‘Forgotten Passwords’ section of popular dating sites and enter his email. If the website tells you that there is no account associated with that email, then your husband has never used that website. However, if an account is associated with your spouse’s email, then he has used that website at some point (he may not be using it now).
Last Resort: Hire a Private Investigator
I would not recommend this option for most people, as private investigators can be quite expensive. However, if you have the money and want to save yourself the hassle, then hiring a PI is a good idea.
Make sure you hire a licensed and competent private investigator. Be careful not to ask for recommendations from friends who may tell your husband what you are doing.
A PI will have a lot more resources than you and will be able to do a much deeper search. They will not try to hack into your husband’s computer, phone, or account (as it is illegal). However, they could physically trail your husband to check if he is actively going on dates with other women.
What do I do if my Husband is Using Dating Websites?
If your husband is using a dating website, your first act should be to determine the nature of his ‘dates’. If you have access to his dating profile, you will be able to glean a lot more information. For example, you can find out the number of women he has gone out with, and the nature of his relationship with them.
Even if you are unable to find significant evidence, it is possible to confront a potential cheater without proof. After that, you must decide if your marriage is worth saving.
Do You Want to Save Your Marriage?
If your husband has cheated on you, you may be inclined towards a divorce. This is a natural reaction, and appropriate in most cases. I would recommend that you consult with a marriage counselor first. They can help you decide if the positives of your relationship outweigh the negatives to make you stay.
If you think that you may be able to forgive your husband given enough time, then it is time to find out what he wants.
Is Your Husband Willing to Make up For His Mistakes?
Confront your husband and let all your emotions out. It is important that you do not hold back your anger, as you need closure. Once everything is said and done, see if your husband is apologetic.
If your husband does not seem to care about your feelings, then your marriage is in an extremely fragile state. It is possible to make him care about you again, but it will take time.
If your husband is apologetic and says things like “I promise this will never happen again!”, then recovery may be easier. Of course, just because he says he will not cheat again doesn’t mean he won’t. You must be extremely careful and demand access to his personal items for your own satisfaction from here on out.
That said, the two of you can now embark upon the journey of rebuilding your marriage. Remember that the burden is on him, and you should expect him to be on your best behavior. Just make sure that you do not do anything to further harm your marriage, such as getting unnecessarily angry. As long as he understands the ramifications of what he has done, it’s time to put everything behind you and heal together.