How I Saved my Marriage... Even When My Spouse Didn't Want To
Here’s How To Discover The Truth, Cut Through The Lies And Pain, Stop Divorce Dead In Its Tracks, And Rebuild The Strong, Intimate Marriage You’ve Always Wanted… Even If Your Spouse Doesn’t Want To!
That last line was the one that got me.
Even if your spouse doesn’t want to.
I couldn’t understand it at the time but she just doesn’t seem interested. We both knew we had been drifting apart but I was still willing to fight. I wanted to do something (not that I knew what to do). She seemed fine with the drift and we were just getting further and further away.
It felt like the bottom was dropping out of my world.
Something had to change. If I kept going along that path doing the same thing I would have wound up in the divorce office no questions asked.
What I was doing wasn’t working. Ignoring the problem wasn’t working. Hell trying to talk about the problem wasn’t working.
I needed something to disarm the threat of divorce. To rebuild the marriage we’d first had. I needed help.
Fast forward a while and my marriage is stronger than it ever was. But I know other people will find themselves in a similar position as I was.
And, going by the latest divorce stats, it doesn’t always work out the way you want.
So, before I go any further, I need you to stop for a minute. I know what it’s like when you’re online. You get a lot of bits of anecdotal stories and titbits of information thrown at you.
There’s no one thing you’re going to say or do that’s going to fix things. There’s no magic pill for this.
But there is absolutely something you can do which makes it worse in just one move. Trust me — I’ve seen it happen. Heck, I’ve done it.
I know what it’s like to be desperate in that situation. But you’re walking along a very thin tightrope at the moment. And a stupid bit of internet advice could honestly be the thing which pushes you over.
That’s why this page exists. I want to share my story because I know how many marriages it could save. But even if it saves just one it’ll be worth my time. (Update: I’ve actually had a flood of emails over the last few months so we’ve definitely hit that target)!
Here’s the thing I want you to understand though:
Your Spouse Is Lying To You About The Real Reasons They Want A Divorce
Sometimes not even intentionally. Certainly not always maliciously. They might not even understand the actual reasons themselves and this is the root cause when you’re in what I call the danger zone.
Here’s the common stuff I’ve certainly heard:
“I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore…”
“We’ve grown apart.”
“You’re not exciting or fun anymore.”
“I’ve met someone else and I think I love them…”
“I hate you!”
“I’m sick of your nagging!”
“I don’t want to be married anymore and there’s nothing you can say that will make me change my mind.”
If any of this sounds familiar I actually have some good news for you (although they’re never fun to hear).
I know it can feel like you’re the only person in the world in that position. How could anyone else understand what you’re going through?
But, trust me, I’ve heard it. Thousands of other people have heard it. And none of them spell the end of the of your marriage if you don’t want them to.
In fact, I take that back. Don’t trust me — trust the girl who saved my marriage.